Monthly Archives: November 2023

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Day by Day

Today Phil and I are celebrating our 48th wedding anniversary.

My overwhelming sense is thankfulness –

  • first to God for bringing us together (it is truly a God ordained match)
  • to our families for supporting us throughout our marriage
  • for our Christian friends who have set an example in their own marriages
  • and…held us accountable

It is a choice day by day to maintain a loving, supportive relationship in marriage. The vows we pledged on that cold wintery day, November 29th,1975 in Wheaton, Illinois were just empty words if we did not make the choice each day to live them out.

I was talking with a dear family friend on Thanksgiving who has been free from alcohol addiction for many years now. I asked him if it was still hard at times. He said “Gayle, I make the choice every day not to drink. Once I make that choice it is easy.”

I realized that is exactly what commitment in marriage should look like. Every day I make the choice to

  • love
  • honor
  • respect
  • forgive
  • be faithful to
  • and ENJOY my spouse.

In Ephesians 5: 31-32 Paul quotes from Genesis – the beginning of the Bible

31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

It is still a mystery to me after 48 years how God unites us into one. Anyone who knows Phil and I know how opposite we are in so many ways. Yet we are united in our desire to love one another and serve our Savior – Jesus Christ. That has been the day by day commitment that has held us together these many years.

Phil has been a wonderful, supportive husband and an outstanding father to Benjamin, Hannah, Salem, and Abigail. Our children are – and have been – a great source of joy in our lives. Now we are grandparents. How we love those grandchildren! Our family is far from perfect, we have disagreements, we argue, we see things differently. Yet we share a love for each other in spite of our shortcomings. I am so thankful for that.

Thank you, Phil, for your deep love and support low these 48 years! I am so blessed to be married to you.

May God bless us with many more years together. I love you.

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Thankful for Suffering?

Taking time to be thankful is an important task in maintaining spiritual health. I can choose to focus on all the terrible – even horrific situations in our world. Many of these situations I can do nothing about in my own strength. Yet praying about them, taking my concern to the God of the universe, shifts my focus to God’s ultimate plan of redeeming this broken, fallen world. Being thankful that God is with me in my times of suffering doesn’t take away the reality of that suffering, but it does give me HOPE!

Paul wrote from prison – Acts 16:22-25

22 A mob quickly formed against Paul and Silas, and the city officials ordered them stripped and beaten with wooden rods. 23 They were severely beaten, and then they were thrown into prison. The jailer was ordered to make sure they didn’t escape. 24 So the jailer put them into the inner dungeon and clamped their feet in the stocks.

25 Around midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening.

Paul’s response to his terrible suffering was prayer and singing hymns to God. I have never been beaten or thrown in prison, yet Christians in our current world are suffering that very way. In James 1: 2-4 James reminds us to view suffering as part of our life as followers of Jesus and something to be thankful for.

2 Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.

So much of what has been given to me I haven’t earned and, truth be told, I don’t deserve. I think this is especially important in the climate of our current culture. So much of the discourse is negative, divisive, polarizing and unkind. The focus often seems to be on “what is best for ME”.

So how do I respond this Thanksgiving when I am so blessed to be with our family and friends….yet so many are suffering in our world?

I must respond with Thanksgiving. In Paul’s letter to the Philippians he says – 4:6-7

6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

As I gather with family and friends this Thanksgiving I will be praying for those who are suffering. I will also be thankful and enjoy the blessings that God, by his grace, has given.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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The Mysteries of Creation

My friend Norma Clayton appeared in an article recently in our local newspaper. She had noticed a unusual bird in her yard. It had a band around it’s leg and her husband lured it into a cage so they could find out what kind of bird it was. Through the help of several local friends and acquaintances they determined it was a carrier pigeon belonging to someone hundreds of miles away. David Nestler was able to contact the owner and discover that the bird had gotten lost and not returned home as carrier pigeons usually do. It was an interesting story and stirred up my interest in this unique bird. In reading a bit about these birds, also known as “homing pigeons” their unique ability is to return home no matter where they are. They can be released far from home and carry a message back to their original home over long distances. These birds can become lost if there is bad weather or a predator chases them off course, but it is rare for them not to return home.

Norma’s story fascinated me partly because I have no sense of direction. I have gotten lost many times in my life and God’s grace and the kindness of strangers has helped me more times than I can count. (being married to Phil who has an internal GPS is extremely helpful)

How those birds can find their way home mystifies me! I have made wrong turns when the color of a building changed or a favorite tree was cut down. I can’t imagine flying thousands of miles over ever changing landscapes and not loosing my way. Geese and other birds return to nesting grounds thousands of miles away year after year.

Carol and I went to watch the elk this week. What magnificent creatures they are! Looking at these few examples of the wonder of God’s creation reminds me of the fact that there are many mysteries in the natural world. Science – the study of the world around us – is always looking for explanations. We want to know why things are the way they are. Many of these mysteries have no explanations yet. This gives scientists job security. Humans keep observing and studying and asking “why?”.

The apostle Paul tells us in his letter to the Romans that everything God has made reveals God’s nature to us. We can’t see God, but we can see the results of his creative power and divine nature.

Romans 1:20 NLT

20 For ever since the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky. Through everything God made, they can clearly see his invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature. So they have no excuse for not knowing God.

Romans 1:20 The Message

But the basic reality of God is plain enough. Open your eyes and there it is! By taking a long and thoughtful look at what God has created, people have always been able to see what their eyes as such can’t see: eternal power, for instance, and the mystery of his divine being. So nobody has a good excuse.

These mysteries of creation remind me that God reveals himself to us through creation. God wants relationship with us and has provided the path to that relationship through his Son Jesus.

Seeing the wonder and beauty of God’s creation is all the more glorious because I also know God as Father. That the God of creation has called me by name to join his family is humbling and yet it fills me with hope knowing anyone, anywhere may also join God’s family.