“When we go to Nana and Pop’s – Pop will take us to the barn, Pop will give us a ride in the cart, we will play with Pop in the tree house… and Nana – well Nana is always busy.”
Our daughter was describing her son’s excitement about the planned visit to our home. She was telling me about all the things her boys planned to do with Pop. Her words were not intended to hurt me…
but they did.
“Nana is always busy.”
Our grandson is right. When our grandchildren come, I am always so excited to see them. I hug them, give a few words of greeting, and then I often head for the kitchen to either start or put the finishing touches on the next meal.
Someone has to do it….right?
Yet in thinking about our grandson’s assessment of Nana’s involvement in his life, I realized that I am always busy. I am an active person. When we don’t have company I am generally working on an art project (or several) or sewing something by hand. I love to make things by hand! When I watch a movie or TV I am usually making something as I watch. I do handwork in the car when traveling.
I also enjoy working in our yard pulling weeds, trimming plants, deadheading blooms, or just generally maintaining our flower beds.
It occured to me that my “busyness” was more of a habit than a necessity.
Yes, meals must be made and bathrooms cleaned, but I don’t need to do other things when our children and grandchildren come to visit. I need to focus more on THEM.
Our grandchildren LOVE playing with Pop because he gives them his undivided attention – well mostly.
(he has been known to fix something or other at the barn when he takes them down there or pull a weed or two from the garden) Pop does most of what they ask so they enjoy being with him and it is certainly mutual.
It is not an issue of competiton for the attention of our grandchildren. We currently have 11 grandchildren so there are plenty of opportunities to spread the love around. I enjoy the fact that these grandchildren love being with their “Pop”. The issue is that I was hurt by the honest assessment of our grandson because it pointed out to me what I was missing.
Our grandchildren will remember playing with Pop….and they will remember Nana being busy.
Jesus addressed this issue of “busyness” with two sisters, Mary and Martha. In Luke 10:38-41 it says –
38 As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home. 39 Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord’s feet, listening to what He taught. 40 But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to You that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.”
41 But the Lord said to her, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! 42 There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”
The Amplified Bible says – “40 But Martha [overly occupied and too busy] was distracted with much serving”. Does that sound like me? YES!
Jesus says to Martha – there is only one thing worth being concerned about – Mary has discovered it. Mary was sitting at the feet of Jesus – spending time with Him.
Jesus indicates here that He is not all that impressed with our “busyness” – the stuff we are supposedly doing for Him. He wants us to fellowship with Him – to sit at His feet.
As God’s children we MUST choose that ONE THING – being with Jesus.
I am making a committment to be more intentional about the time I spend with our grandchildren. I want to focus on THEM – and not just be busy.
God wants relationship with me – He is not impressed with what I “do” for Him. He wants me to sit at His feet.
Our grandchildren want our time – more than a clean house, weeded flower beds or homemade cookies.
Well – maybe not the cookies……
Deat friend, you know how much I identify with this one…such a great reminder…while today is today, enjoy them……be intentional….I so wholeheartedly agree! We can never get that time back…..love!
Dear friend and sister – Yes, be intentional… God is faithful to teach us through these little ones.
Excellent. There are many times in my life, in many different situations where I have that Mary/Martha moment and I have to step back and say… what is really important here? Being busy is a hard habit to break at times, almost as hard as being lazy. Finding a happy medium is the challenge. But no matter what, don’t forget the cookies!
Yes, that is the question – what is really important here? “out of the mouths of babes…”
I’ll remember the cookies.
Oh man Gayle, you really hit the nail on the head for me with this one. All my life I’ve been Martha more than Marsha, I guess. I’m actually better with grandchildren than the important adults in my life, but still, this is a great reminder to be present and in the moment.
Dear Marsha, You have such a servant’s heart. You bless me and many others.
It is amazing how we can learn from these little ones isn’t it? I don’t want to miss this time in their lives.