There are certain looks, or tones of voice, certain words or phrases that can drive us crazy. (whatever!)
I remember thinking if one more child walks in the door and the FIRST thing they say is “What’s for supper?” that I just might roast that child!!!
It’s those little irritants that can make a day so trying. Here are a few that come quickly to mind:
- I have just mopped the kitchen floor and they come in from soccer practice in their cleats.
- I have just finished getting everyone dressed, ready to go out the door and a HUGE stinky diaper is detected
- I have all the kids in their car seats and one has to go to the bathroom – RIGHT NOW
- We sorted the toys while the youngest is taking a nap. After that child wakes up – she dumps all the toys out.
- We are all dressed up for a family picture and the baby spits up on the ONLY blouse I can button right now.
- I have 4 suckers of different colors and they ALL want the green one.
You get the picture – these are all little things – but they can be so irritating.
I read recently about the process that a clam goes through in making a pearl. A grain of sand – or other irritant – gets in the shell. The clam forms a coating, layer after layer of smooth surface to cover that irritant. That becomes the pearl! It no longer irritates because it is smooth and round.
What a lovely picture.
Those very things our children do that drive us crazy can become the substance of something very beautiful. It is not the behavior that becomes beautiful, but my response to it. If I can be patient, loving, and full of grace in those trying situations – something of beauty is formed.
Jesus is teaching about the Kingdom Of Heaven in Matthew 13. He wants his disciples, and us, to understand that the Kingdom of Heaven is of great value because it is where the King – God – rules or has authority. Jesus says –
Matthew 13:45-46 AMP
45 Again the kingdom of heaven is like a man who is a dealer in search of fine and precious pearls,
46 Who, on finding a single pearl of great price, went and sold all he had and bought it.
Jesus wants us to value God’s authority in our lives more than anything else. He wants us to value His rule as we would a very expensive pearl. The Lord desires to use those things in our lives that we see as irritants to “polish” off our rough edges and make us “shiny” enough to reflect His glory.
I pray that we can see the things that rub us the wrong way as people or circumstances that God is using in our lives.
It’s ok to recognize that certain behaviors are driving us crazy – but let’s allow God to use those very things to make us more like Jesus.