“You did it first!”
“When is it MY turn?”
“I’m always last!”
“These kids are driving me nuts!”
Don’t these whiny words seem all the more irritating when it is hot?
I remember riding in the car with my brothers when we were young. It was not air-conditioned, and all three of us were in the back seat with no dividers or arm rests. I didn’t want my brothers to touch me, or my stuffed dog, Spotty…..
or even LOOK at me!
I remember my father saying that if the whining didn’t stop, he was going to pull over.
We knew what that meant.
We stopped whining, but we glared at each other.
Well, Gregg and I did…. Garry was reading.
This scenario never happened in the winter. Why not? We rode in the same car on the same back seat….but it wasn’t hot!
As a parent, I remember facing the same situation when our children were young. We did have air conditioning, but usually just opened the windows and we had more room in our Volkswagen Vanagan. (We often had to push it off to get it to start, though.)
I still faced the whining when it was hot, and my patience seemed to melt away along with the higher temperatures.
As the temperature rose, so did the volume of my voice.
How can we face the heat and also the fact that we and our children must control our tempers?
The source of this kind of anger is often physical discomfort. We have no control over the weather, but we can control our response to it. In thinking about this, I remember some helpful suggestions that I have heard and tried over the years:
- do chores first thing in the morning – it is usually cooler
- have lots of water available at all times – hydration helps
- plan for inside, quiet activities during the heat of the day – usually 11:00 to 2:00 or so
- this is a good time for reading, a video, playing games
- get in the water – a river, creek, pool, lake, ocean, if possible in the afternoon
- if not – turn on a hose or sprinkler
- plan meals that don’t require a hot stove or oven – sandwiches, fruits and fresh veggies
If riding very far in the car, plan ahead to have enough books, coloring books, or games so there is less chance of squabbling between siblings. Our daughters often use stories on CD in the car and their children really enjoy them.
The Bible addresses the importance of controlling our anger. Ephesians 4:31-32 says –
Ephesians 4:31-32 (NLT)
31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
We should admit to ourselves and our children that it is HOT and that we all feel the effects, BUT, we will still be kind to each other, avoiding harsh words and a mean tone of voice.
This does not mean that we don’t correct or discipline our children when they intentionally and willfully disobey. The heat does not justify bad behavior.
It does mean that we give grace to each other, just as God has shown His grace to us.