Seasons of Change

I recently heard someone say – “The only person who likes change is a baby with a dirty diaper.” I have the blessing of keeping our great-grandchild while her mother is taking college classes. So yes, change is a good thing when it comes to diapers.

We all relate to that, don’t we. There are some people who seem to thrive on change, even chaos. Yet for most of us there is comfort in the familiar. We like to know what we may face ahead so we can plan accordingly. Yet change is a part of life whether that change is by choice or not.

I have learned in my almost 74 years that changes I sometimes fought against turned out to be blessings I would never have imagined. God knew. His ways are not our ways.

My father taught high school biology for 40 years. He taught 33 of those years at Wheaton Central High School in Illinois, took early retirement, and taught for 7 more years in Taichung, Taiwan at an English speaking mission school – Morrison Academy. Dad once told me that change at that time in his life was transformational in so many ways. Instead of “hanging on” during his last few years of teaching, he had a whole new set of plants and animals to share with students. The tropical environment of Taiwan was a new learning experience for him that challenged him to keep at least one step ahead of his students. How he enjoyed those years!

The change allowed my father to thrive in his final years of teaching in a way that staying in his comfort zone would never have done.

Change is hard. It challenges us to give up the comfortable and familiar for the unknown and uncertain. This can be especially difficult when the changes are imposed on us. Our own physical limitations, illness of a spouse, or a change in living situations can challenge us to face changes we didn’t anticipate or want.

Paul shares the “secret” to facing change in whatever circumstances we face in Philippians 4: 10-14

10 How I praise the Lord that you are concerned about me again. I know you have always been concerned for me, but you didn’t have the chance to help me. 11 Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. 12 I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. 13 For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. 14 Even so, you have done well to share with me in my present difficulty.

The “secret” is that Paul learned to be content in whatever situation he faced. He accepted that situation – comfort, illness, abundance, prison – because he KNEW his life was in God’s hands and ultimately God was accomplishing His plan in Paul’s life. Paul suffered greatly at times, yet he knew God was faithful.

May we apply Paul’s secret to whatever we face today.

I Need Your Help – Really?

“Phil, I need your help. I want to move the gardenia bush from the pot it has been growing in. It’s root bound and needs more space.”

Phil obligingly gets a shovel and a wheelbarrow and says – “Where do you want the hole?”

“Right here.” I reply. I am standing next to an especially favorite hydrangea between a calla lily and a yellow daylily. I have positioned my self to “protect” these plants from the shovel. So I say to Phil –

“Don’t step there!”

“Dig from this side.”

“Watch out for the lily poking through.”

“Don’t pile the dirt there!!”

Phil stops digging and asks – “Do you want my help or not?”

The realization of my request for help sets in. I want Phil to dig the hole because I am not able. YET – I have made it impossible for Phil to help me with the limitations I have put on him. He has to stand somewhere, and the dirt he digs to make a hole has to go somewhere. I am not really asking Phil for “help”, I am telling him what to do.

This realization got me thinking about my cries of help to God. I may be facing a crisis and cry out to God “Help me” yet in the next breath I am telling God what to do, when to do it, and the outcome I expect.

I am giving the God of the universe, omnipotent, omniscient, creator and sustainer of all things – advice. Really?

Proverbs 3: 5-6 says –

Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
do not depend on your own understanding.
6 Seek his will in all you do,
and he will show you which path to take
.

Do not depend on my own understanding…

How often I think I know what is best… for myself, my husband, my children, my grandchildren, my friends, my acquaintances, my enemies, even random people I don’t know – “That person should just…”, my grandchild’s coach, the referees or umpires, my pastor, the worship leader?

The list could go on and on couldn’t it?

How totally presumptuous of me!! Is God thinking – “Do you really want my help or not?”

The answer is TRUST. I must trust in the Lord with all my heart. I must surrender my will to God’s will. God knows the big picture as well as each small detail of my life, i.e. the number of hairs on my head. Scripture is very clear on the fact that God has a plan for all of creation and a plan for how I, as an individual, fit into that bigger, glorious plan. He will direct my path.

To finish the above story about transplanting, I left to get water to soak the newly transplanted gardenia since Phil did not need me telling him HOW, after I told him where I wanted it planted. When I returned, Phil had placed it in the newly dug hole and the surrounding plants were just fine.

Trust.

# In My Garden with God