“So, what did you think about that?”
I listened for a moment, and then proceeded to criticize my husband’s response.
I proceeded to explain to him that he was being CRITICAL.
I also went further (inserting both feet in my mouth) to tell him that his response was HYPOCRITICAL.
Everything I accused him of I was doing myself.
Shame washed over me – but the damage was done.
I couldn’t take back my words or the feelings they invoked. The thought went through my mind that I have been on my journey as a Christian for over 50 years, yet I am still failing to love the person who means the most to me, my husband.
I can blog all day about respectful relationships with my children and grandchildren – yet it is all meaningless if I don’t live it out myself in my primary relationship – with my husband.
The mission statement of this blog is “Reflecting the Image of God in Our Relationships”.
That means ALL relationships. Not just the ones I blog about, or the ones other people see.
Yet that is the beauty of our journey as Christians. God is taking us from wherever we are to the destination of being conformed to the likeness of His son, Jesus. As a journey, there are wrong turns, detours, even wrecks. We still press on. Paul says in Philippians 3:12-14 (NIV)
12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
We will receive that prize if we stay on the journey.
So – I ask forgiveness, get off the path of criticism and judgment, and press on – “straining toward what is ahead.”
My friend Alice Marie and I were talking about the pictures we post on Facebook. She mentioned that they give a snapshot – but an incomplete view of our lives. We post the “events” – the parties, get togethers, the cute poses – and these are so much fun to see. They are certainly true – but not the whole story. We should celebrate and share the special times – always remembering that they are just part of the picture.
We don’t post the fights, crying fits, or major messes of our lives. Nor should we. These would often be disrespectful of those involved.
Alice Marie made me think about the photos I post and the things I write about.
I want to tell the truth, give the complete picture and at the same time, celebrate the beauty and wonder of our journey as Christians. God loves us so much that He shows us our failures and gives us the grace to admit them, ask forgiveness, and get back on the right path.
So, I will PRESS ON, thankful that Phil walks in forgiveness with me.
I sure need it.